The Cultural Shock of Facebook

Posted: February 14, 2011 in Archive

Facebook. Facebook. Facebook. Now, even that word, doesn’t need to be translated to be understood from a foreigner. Social media has transformed the way we (humans of course, unless animals have developed a sophisticated voice box I am unaware of) communicate with each other. Facebook has governed the social scene on the internet for the last 7 years. Myspace? Elementary school? One in the same now. Let’s not go there today. They (FB) has created the world’s most interesting party – even more interesting than the Dos Equis commercials – and there is about 600M ppl  in attendance, global, worth upwards of $50B, and it never ends (now that the avg person spends more time on the site than personal email) Talk about a lavish party? Obama’s party for Hu Jintao wouldn’t even come close here – ha,ha. Not to mention strikingly addictive? Ummm…..yes. Imagine, 100 years from now, there will  definitely be a disorder for Facebook — Hyper Attention Facebook Disorder (HAFD)?

What does all this mean though? It means a new medium has emerged in the 21st century. It has created a culture  for those where privacy is uncommon, transparency is welcomed, pictures are revered, and openness is celebrated.

This culture, Facebook has created, is quite frankly amusing. It has caused me to seriously examine the behavioral trends of one another – well, at least, my age group of friends. Has any one noticed if an attractive female, with a coke bottle figure, decides to post provocative pictures of herself….she instantly becomes what I like to call “Facebook Famous”? Meaning, she receives up to 15 friend requests a day from “rando’s”, and probably has well over 2000 “friends” since her last picture in a swimsuit – most of whom she has no “real” relationship with. C’mon?! My first reaction is shocking, second, is okay I accept it..I guess. I can see how desperate, vulnerable male mongrels who prey on Facebook’s most admired women for their looks and features friend (as a verb — weird I know) these superficial, attention-craving women. I mean, after all, isn’t it as close as their ever going to get? This may seem harsh. But, by no means, does this apply to everyone, or in every male/female case.  “To each is own”. There very well can be a justifiable explanation to friend a random, beautiful woman. Don’t get me wrong, we’ll all got that urge to friend that breathtakingly, hot girl that just happened to be suggested to be your friend in the right corner of your home screen — I know I did. That leads me to my next observation, now because so many guys have decided to “creeeeep” on these attractive women, it’s giving us friendly and confident guys a bad name anytime we decide to send a message, or poke (which I never do), or friend!? Seriously, that’s almost not fair? Another great male stereotype layered on by media. Sweet. And as an aside, guys, if I learned anything from Facebook, its pictures can be unbelievably deceiving …thanks to the advent of photoshop and should I say lighting –  clap it up for Thomas Edison? Not.

Anyway, that is the first and most obvious trend I noticed. Now, more than ever, has looks meant more to us unfortunately. If you look at the economics, the more friends you have, the better looking you are, the more powerful your page is, the better chances you have at succeeding (all else being equal – considering you don’t have anything “criminal” or too risqué posted); especially, if your career is in acting, modeling, bartending, or finding suga daddy’s. Yes, I know, personality matters….and that will never change in my opinion! But, let’s not forget that old saying, your only as powerful as who you associate with or you are who you associate with or it’s all about who you know..That holds true still, right? Well, Facebook draws very definitive and bold lines around that network of yours.  It will be much easier to trace and track down a successful network of an individual than ever before, which is the good news. You may rebut, and say LinkedIn has this ability too, but it’s not really much of a social experience, than it is a collection of online business cards and handshake exchanges (in my opinion at least).

Anyway, I will cut this blog short because it seems to be getting awfully long for an average attention span (or mine for that matter). Twitter won’t let you post this anyway because its over 140 characters…shame on them! I’d love to hear more thoughts on your perceptions of this new online social culture we live, which practically constitutes acountry in itself minus all those natural resources you would need to survive. Then again, there is Zynga and Farmville…we may be all set.

I’ve been “deflowered”  by WordPress now, so let the comments roll in. Thank you!


  1. Dew Dew says:

    Very good points. Remember that these superficial, attention-craving females want creepy men to stalk them. It’s a win-win situation.

    I have two facebook accounts, and can anyone guess why? Well, in my 2nd (secondary) account the few new friends I have took some very unflattering photos and videos of me when I wasn’t in such good shape. I couldn’t possibly add them to my 1st (primary) FB account where I had 800 friends or so and risk to be tagged. I worry about my image and reputation on FB, as superficial as it sounds.

    As for the large proportionate of friends that attractive people (or at least those who make their photos look attractive) possess on FB, that is very accurate.

    FB is just like People’s Magazine where everyone can wear the halo of stardom…for a while, until they stop posting photos. Everyone can be famous nowadays.

  2. Dew Dew says:

    Twitter is great because your look is not so relevant anymore. You’re only allowed to show your profile photo. 140 words force you to get to the point. It’s mainly a tool for journalists and bloggers (you use it too for blog updates, i assume. if you don’t, you should).

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